Discussion- Is our audience also our competition?

When I first started blogging I had no idea that the majority of my readers (I think) would also be bloggers themselves. Ok, to be honest, I never imagined I’d have readers but once that reality set in I began to notice that the folks that comment tend to also be bloggers that I interact with on Twitter.


Me every single time I get a comment.

I’ve never seen another community* where the base audience seems to also be the competition. What do I mean by competition? For the most part, it seems that we (bloggers) are all going for the same blog tour spots, giveaways, publisher contacts, page views, discussion topics and review copies. Even with giveaways we’re typically entering against our friends and visitors to our blog. These shared goals can lead to some less than stellar feelings and a strange dynamic in our community.

I personally believe that healthy competition is a wonderful thing and helps motivate and push someone to take chances, or keep inspired to keep cranking out content and original ideas. This can lead to a very diverse and creative environment but it can also lead to some not as pretty stuff. I’m not really going to go into much detail about the dark side because anyone that’s been here for a bit knows what can happen. I’ve suffered from it myself and I think that most have. It can turn us all a bit green at times.


This would be considered UNHEALTHY competition.

Since I’ve been blogging I’ve met some of my favorite people…I don’t know what I’d do if I didn’t speak to them almost daily. I’m so happy to not feel a sense of competition** with them and to allow their achievements to give me happiness. I think the biggest thing to remember when you might feel green is that someone else’s success doesn’t detract from your own. Have you ever taken an art class? In high school I had the greatest art teacher and just being surrounded by so many creative types at once helped to inspire me and lead to one of the more creative periods in my life. I think that book blogging is like that too. Here’s a diverse, creative and inspired community all providing unique voices (and amazing book recommendations).

Have you addressed this topic before because I’m pretty confident it’s been discussed a thousand times. If so leave a link in the comments! I’d love to read your thoughts.

I want to know…

First- are you a blogger?

Second- If not I thank you for reading and I’d love to hear your input on this topic.

If you answered yes then…

Do you agree that our community is set up to compete? Does this bother you and do you ever feel yourself feeling green or even down about the constant struggle to keep your blog new, shiny and keep folks visiting?

I love what Jamie at The Perpetual Page-Turner is doing right now with Spreading Kindness If you are needing a boost of positive in your day head over.

Another beautifully positive event is Alexa Loves Books Book Blogger’s Love-A-Thon


* I’ve not participated in many communities so I am not an authority on community competition.

** I’d be lying if I said that I NEVER, EVER feel a tiny bit competitive. It happens but I have to stomp it out forcefully. You know that feeling when they all get on the tour you’d like to be on? Or get that coveted book before you? But NONE of this is even a tiny bit as important as the friendship and support we provide each other.


  1. says

    This is a really interesting point!

    I think it depends on what kind of blogger you are. For example, I rarely contact publishers directly or participate in blog tours. For the most part, I just post whatever I want, regardless of what other people are doing. So I don’t really feel like I’m competing for contacts or a blog tour spot, just because I’m not really in that “scene”, you know?

    But there are a lot of people who DO join blog tours and do want to contact publishers directly, and I totally understand why those people might feel like they’re competing.

    I guess for me it just comes down to how well I can write blog posts and deliver content. In the end, if I do a good job with writing posts and coming up with topics, people will want to read my posts, and that’s great. 🙂

    • says

      I feel the same most of the time. I have moments where I feel like I’m not bringing anything new to the scene but I focus on enjoying what I’m doing. I spent most of last year in a blogging slump so I really felt this low but this year I feel revitalized and excited again. It’s amazing what that enjoyment and excitement does for posts and creativity. Thank you for sharing your experience Ashley!

  2. says

    This is a pretty multifaceted issue, I think, and not necessarily unique to book bloggers. When I had a blog about my family (‘mom blog’, for lack of a better word) I saw competition for advertising or corporate partnerships. It’s always something. I think a lot of it depends on your personality. The other factor is how much space this takes up in your life. If you let one thing define you, it will impact everything else.

    Book blogging is a big and wonderful part of my life, but it’s only part, and if I feel myself getting sucked into the ‘they have, but I don’t have’ feeling, which happens occasionally, I remind myself that 1) we’re on on one team: team book, and 2) no one is going to die if I don’t get this ARC/tour spot/whatever.

    I guess that’s a long-winded way of saying that it’s all about balance.

    • says

      Totally! Also, it’s easy to forget that we can BUY the book once it releases. It’s not like the arcs are it and we’ll never get to read the book.

      I agree it’s about balance too. It’s easy to get swept up in everything if you let it but with family, work, friends, etc it is just a small portion of life.

      Great comment Kate!

  3. says

    This is such an awesome post, Kristen! I have thought about my readership and noticed that almost every comment I get is from another blogger. I think it’s great that while we have healthy competition and this community is (for the most part) SO kind and all are so friendly with each other that it doesn’t seem to become anything deeper than that. Of course I get a little green with envy over some ARCs that bloggers get, etc. I think the healthy competition is more motivational and can make us even better bloggers! I still think it’s important to not let what others do influence your blogging style though. Like Ashley said I think we shouldn’t change just because someone else did. Post how you want to post! 😀

    • says

      I completely agree! I think it is such a better experience to post as you want and keep excited about what you’re doing. If you are trying to run the race it (to me) kills the enjoyment. I think the community is such a creative space and really does inspire me. Yay books and book bloggers 🙂

  4. says

    Yes, I am a blogger.

    Honestly? I’ve never, ever felt like this was a competition. Ever. I never get jealous of someone else’s follow count, or the amount of comments they get. In fact, the more comments a person gets, the more excited I am when they take the time out to reply to my comment/comment on my blog.

    That said, I can definitely see your point, and I get what you mean…but maybe I’m just too lazy to see this as a competition.
    I suppose I see giveaways as a sort of competition…but that’s it. And I’m always happy for the winners.

    Really, if my blog gets 10 views in one day, it’s having a good day. Sometimes it gets more, sometimes less. I just roll with it.

    • says

      That’s a great way to be! I wish I could be like that more. I don’t get ugly jealous but I totally get ARC envy, etc. I’m really impressed you are able to completely stay clear of any negative aspects involved. Thanks for your comment!

  5. says

    I am a blogger.

    Interesting topic. I think book blog followers do tend to be other bloggers. I am actually a blogger and a YouTuber and I’ve found that on YouTube I have plenty of subscribers, viewers, and commenters who do not blog or make videos. I think that’s largely because a book blog is MUCH harder to find than a YouTube channel. As a regular consumer, it is much harder to find a book blog in the vastness of the Internet (most of us don’t have enough page views to get in the top half of a Google search). On YouTube, you’re able to find related channels and subjects you’re interested in much more easily.

    I’ve never looked at other bloggers as competition for several reasons. 1. No one wants to read just one book blog, so the more there are the better. 2. Working with other bloggers on co-hosted events allows the bloggers to “share” their viewers with you since they’re more likely to subscribe to the co-hosting blog (similar content, interests, etc). In many ways I wish there was more interaction between bloggers because it would allow everyone’s websites to be more discoverable. 3. I don’t compete for tour spots. I believe purely promotional content (tours, cover reveals, etc.) should be monetized as they are in every other blogging community.

    • says

      Love your comment. I love hearing about the book tubing world. From my own experience I follow some Lego blog’s but I only know of them because of their you tube videos so this is a great point you made. I’ve participated in some multiple blog events and loved the experience and ability to have a broader reach. Really wonder contribution to the discussion-thank you

  6. says

    When I first started blogging and joining the community I couldn’t help but feel very inadecuate and feel like I needed to get to those levels of people with many followers and ARCs and the like, but then I’ve realized I love this community for more than just followers or ARCs. I’ve discovered that I have some amazing friends, that I can have fantastic chats with authors on Twitter and although I still get wishful when I see ARCs of books I’m dying to read, I am more focused on sharing books and my love for them with fellow minded people, because that’s what we all have in common, we love books to insanity!

    • says

      I think it was difficult in the beginning for me too–once I got a grasp on everything I was overwhelmed. As time has gone I’ve found such wonderful people, like you, that the experience is much different now. I think being wishful for arcs is good in some ways because it gets books on our radar! My TBR wishlist is made from bligger’s excitement 🙂 thank you Pili!

  7. says

    I’ve read a lot of discussion posts about the whole “ARC-envy” topic, but I’ve never seen it approached from this angle before. I guess I’ve never really considered other blogs my “competition” – I’m just working hard and doing things at my own pace and having fun, not trying to “out” another blog for an ARC or blog tour spot. I can definitely see where people might view it as a competition though… Of course I get a little jealous sometimes, of bloggers who get those awesome ARC’s before me – but mostly I’m just SUPER excited (and impatient) to read them myself! I really try hard to avoid the whole “why did so-and-so get it and not me???” mindset, which just leads to bad feelings and unhappiness. Our blogs should be happy places and don’t need that kind of negativity!

  8. says

    “For the most part, it seems that we (bloggers) are all going for the same blog tour spots, giveaways, publisher contacts, page views, discussion topics and review copies.”

    Like others have said, it depends on what kind of blogger you are. The only one of these things I ever feel any kind of “competition” about is maybe discussion topics… but then again, if I feel strongly about a subject, nothing’s to say I can’t write my own post (including where I got the inspiration, of course) on the same topic. Along the same lines, I might also feel a tinge of envy if I see someone come up with a great idea for a new feature, especially if I’m feeling like I’m in a rut myself.

    But tours and ARCs and contacts and that whole businessy side of book blogging? It’s just not for me.

    • says

      I’m with you! Blog tours are cool if they happen to land on my doorstep but there has only been one I was sad not to be apart of and that was just because I love the book so much. That doesn’t stop me from posting my love of it everywhere and loving all the hype and your stops. I’m so happy to see so many comments all saying that they don’t see each other as competition. Thank you for commenting!

  9. says

    Hmmm valid point. Someone who I will call “he who shall not be named” left a really nasty comment on my blog under two post. One my appreciation giveaway where I put my stats and said I’d been blogging for under a year, this comment was to the effect that the on,y reason people were following me was b/c of my giveaways since my content sucked. The other one was under my stacking the shelves (which I do monthly) in which “they” called me a strait up book hog. I responded then erased and deleted these comments. I’m not going to let others jealously bring down things that I bust my ass for. I’m also not going to comment about it on Twitter and give that person the power they are trying to take from me. This is a bit off topic but what I’m getting at is im a driven person in ALL things I do. When I do something I do it to the extreme which comes off as competive so I can see how things can be viewed this way but I never get bummed if I don’t make a tour or a get a book since I know I’ll eventually get it. We all have different thoughtd and idea and feeling so as long as our blogs are a reflection of our true selves and not a recreation of something they think it should be then I don’t think we are co letting since we are all different. I hope I’m making some sense. Anyhoo I think there are a few rotten apples out there who poo poo on people since they are jealous of what they don’t have and that’s sad for them, to be driven to say something to hurt some one else since you didn’t get your whatever is awful but such is life. Some people are just meanies. I think for the most part and what I have felt is nothing but support from this community. Great discussion…as usual. Thanks for letting me ramble

    • says

      I’m the same Brittany. I have a fierce drive and sometimes i feel like it can come off as competitive. I can’t believe people said such hurtful things in your comments!! I’m…I don’t even know. Shocked? Appalled? You are so incredibly supportive and sweet. Grrr. Mostly, I’m sad that you were hurt. You are always so happy and positive for someone to be ugly to you? Ugh.

    • Ashley says

      I was scrolling down to add my comment when I saw Britt’s comment. I follow her, too, so I can’t imagine anyone leaving comments of this nature on ANYONE’S page, but especially on Britt’s. I find new blogs to follow through giveaways a lot, so it’s quite possible that I did start following because of one, but I certainly won’t continue following a blog I don’t like if I dislike their posts.

      I am no longer a book blogger. I started one with some friends about 2 years ago, and it has been on hiatus for about a year. We felt like we were shouting into the void and that what we were shouting wasn’t very original. During my time as a blogger, I definitely had some envy (chiefly about ARCs), but I knew until we grew our numbers, it wasn’t a judgement against our blog – we were just new. Some days I wish we would have stuck with it, but honestly, I just love following all of you, reading your opinions, entering your giveaways, and discussing things like this. (Though, I’ll admit, I don’t comment often. I should fix that.)

      I should throw in some !!!! or Britt won’t recognize me!

  10. says

    Very interesting post Kristen! I’ve actually never thought of it that way, but when you think about it, I guess most of the time, that’s how it goes. I guess it also depends on how much of a competition you view it as? And I guess the competitive drive you have. I mean, it doesn’t bother me, the whole culture that has become this “arc envy” thing. I think Nick wrote a post about it a while back, about the toxicity of arc envy and totally see where she’s coming from. I guess it’s because I don’t let it get to me. Because at the end of the day, I remind myself that I’m doing this for the fun of it. And so it’s not a competition to me? But I can see how it can be, how the pressure could get to many, because like all things, this does have a competitive underpinning, especially in this day and age where the time is “hot to blog”. That being said, I think my location is also quite important? It’s much more relaxed where I am, with the whole arc/review copy situation. Definitely something to think about though. Fantastic post Kristen! x

    • says

      I think the arc envy thing leads to this fine line. for me personally a tiny bit of envy is good because it makes me add the book to my TBR and keep it on my mind to get a hold of.

      It can slip to the dark side so easily though. I wish that was never a thing in the community. Overall, I think that most of the community doesn’t feel like each other are the competition and we can all grow and inspire one another.

    • Ashley says

      I was scrolling down to add my comment when I saw Britt’s comment. I follow her, too, so I can’t imagine anyone leaving comments of this nature on ANYONE’S page, but especially on Britt’s. I find new blogs to follow through giveaways a lot, so it’s quite possible that I did start following because of one, but I certainly won’t continue following a blog I don’t like if I dislike their posts.

      I am no longer a book blogger. I started one with some friends about 2 years ago, and it has been on hiatus for about a year. We felt like we were shouting into the void and that what we were shouting wasn’t very original. During my time as a blogger, I definitely had some envy (chiefly about ARCs), but I knew until we grew our numbers, it wasn’t a judgement against our blog – we were just new. Some days I wish we would have stuck with it, but honestly, I just love following all of you, reading your opinions, entering your giveaways, and discussing things like this. (Though, I’ll admit, I don’t comment often. I should fix that.)

      I should throw in some !!!! or Britt won’t recognize me!

  11. says

    I actually don’t get too many comments on my blog. That only changed when I started doing rounds like I guess [most] other bloggers. I’ve never really considered a competition, but you do bring up a really good point. I just do go with the flow. I don’t let others’ decisions influence mine. Like, if person A does a discussion post about topic A and they get 50 comments, I don’t ever think “OH I SHOULD DO IT TOO!”

    I’m actually really competitive, so I have no idea why I never considered it competition. maybe it’s because I have so much respect and friendship for the people I comment on? We’re all friends here, aren’t we? Or at least, we should be. That’s the main thing I love about the community. Things don’t HAVE to be a competition because we’re commenting on each others blog, so we all succeed. <3

    • says

      I can be competitive too which I didn’t actually know about myself until later in life. I struggle with knowing if being focused/competitive is a strength? I guess it’s how one handles it and what sort of emotions it produces. For me, I get motivated and want to rally myself to do something better–it’s almost like I compete with myself. Does that make any sense?

  12. says

    So I honestly am wondering about the assumption that the majority of any of our readers are other bloggers. Certainly the ones who comment are, but the numbers don’t seem to add up ya know? On a given post you get say 20-50 comments right? (less on reviewers typically I suppose) But the pageviews/sessions for that day are almost always at least double that. The people who view without commenting certainly could also be bloggers, but I suspect a lot of them are regular folks who don’t really feel the compulsion to comment. I have a couple of regular commenters who don’t leave links to a website so I assume they aren’t bloggers too. We’re definitely in a community where people start as readers, find some blogs and decide to try blogging out for themselves, so there are a lot of new bloggers, but I think it’s hard to be sure how many non-bloggers we really have reading the blog because they are so often completely silent to our attempts to measure them, haha.

    • says

      Yes Anya! I’m so curious how many don’t have blogs! I want to know!! I want to know what other content they would love to see. Speak to us! Haha great point and I am so curious. I sort of figured a lot of bloggers visit w/out commenting too.

      • Maraia says

        Hi Kristen,

        I’m a non-blogger who enjoys following book blogs and commenting on them. Part of the reason I haven’t started my own blog is because I see so many posts about ARC-envy, drama, and general negativity within the community. I’m reluctant to knowingly place myself in a stressful situation, when it should be about a shared love of books.

        I will say that maybe non-bloggers don’t comment very often because they feel unwelcome. Some blogs don’t even let you comment if you don’t have your own website! Even if you can comment, you end up being some random person, and I’ve found that most bloggers won’t respond. There are a few who do (thanks, Anya!), but they are the exception, rather than the rule. I would love to discuss books with people, but it’s frustrating to make an effort to comment when I know I won’t get a response.

        • says

          Thank you so much for commenting on this post! I would love to be connected to some non blogger folks too. For all the negative that you might see about the community there is so much positive. I’ve made some amazing friends that are such a part of my life now. I’m so sad that the negative stuff seems to be so visible 🙁 hopefully this can change. Thank you for weighing in!

  13. says

    I never really thought about it like this. Myabe that’s because I don’t really have any publishers contacts. I mostly see those who comment more as friends or allies then competitors. Maybe it’s also because I live in the Netherlands and while I accept e-copies for review I don’t really hunt for hardcopies as I feel bad asking other people to pay money to get the book all the way to here. Although other bloggers can inspire me. I usually feel happy when one of my favourite bloggers get an ARC or review copy of a book they really wanted to.

    • says

      I don’t think I’ve ever seen a commenter as competition–I was referring more to all the other stuff mostly to do with topic ideas and publisher stuff. I think of anyone that spends the time to comment as amazing. I think when I started filling out forms with stats and follower numbers it hit me/-wow I’m up against all my friends for this stuff. Its a weird thing to think for sure and I wondered if it had struck anyone else.
      Oh the Netherlands! That is so cool 🙂 thank you so much for sharing your experience!

  14. says

    I am a blogger, but I don’t really feel competitive so much as inspired! I have only been running my blog for a little over six months, so I’m not expecting to receive any ARCs from publishers, because I know that I need to build up my audience a bit more before that can even be an aim. However, seeing everyone else receiving their ARCs inspires me to continue on with my blog, because with a few years work under my belt, soon I could be getting those kind of rewards in return.

    • says

      Yes! It is such a creative and inspirational community. I adore the passion folks have. I’m so happy you’ve enjoyed your blog experience so far!

  15. says

    Yes I am a blogger 🙂

    I never thought I was competing with anyone, I really started my blog not only for the love of books and reading but because I always second guess myself and I have no confidence at all so I needed to do something that I would never in a million years think I would do. Not only has it boosted my self confidence but it also allowed me to find amazing books and make wonderful friends. If I notice people that seem “high school” clichie I tend to stay away from them because they tend to create drama and are the only NOT nice people I have meet, but otherwise, I love when people get cool books I don’t get or have awesome posts I didn’t think of,. The bookish people are really a great group of people, I honestly don’t feel compation and I think that’s because each one of our blogs is unique and a part of us which makes it so great 🙂

    I am probably totally off topic and I apologize 🙂 Great Post Kristen!

    • says

      Not off topic at all!! This blog was a challenge to myself too. I never dreamed I’d do it and the experience has been wonderful. I’m so glad to see that the commenters really haven’t seen the community as competing. I think I do at times when I’m filling out arc requests and having to supply stats, etc. When I get to thinking–I wonder what the pubs are looking for? Thank you for your comment!

  16. says

    Good topic! I am a blogger, and in a way I feel we do compete – if only for readership. I don’t sign up for ARCs or compete for blog tour stuff anymore, but there are so many blogs and only so much time for reading them, so we are in competition for people’s attention, right?

    • says

      I agree…I don’t think competition is all bad. But, boy it can go that way though. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. It’s been incredibly interesting to see others weigh in on the topic.

  17. says

    Hiya Kristen. This is such a great topic and one that, as a blogger, I can certainly relate to. I think there is a certain amount of pressure bloggers face that inadvertently impacts on whether or not they view their audience as competition. I’ve learnt, over the years though, that having a rapport with the blogging community is more important than viewing my fellow bloggers as competition. The moment I start viewing others that way, is the
    moment I know that I’m book blogging for all the wrong reasons.

    • says

      Very true! I think some healthy competition is a great thing though. I think it can help elevate creativity and inspiration. When/if that competition turns to he ugly side though is when it creates a negative outcome. As with everything, I think their needs to be a healthy balance.

  18. says

    I don’t think this is a black or white issue, with blogging there’s going to be a LOT of middle ground. Personally I don’t participate in blog tours, promo/book blast posts, etc. I also don’t really talk about much YA, so that cuts out a big chunk of the ‘competition.’ Although I do have my contacts, I never felt jealous of another blogger for having theirs – for the most part, I don’t read the same novels as the bloggers I follow, but if there does happen to be overlap, happy day!

    There are some fashion and cooking blogs I follow and I can sort of see where your idea of competition comes in. Recently there was a group of food bloggers who all ran giveaways for the same appliance. So in that case, sure, I get it. Overall, however, I honestly don’t think competition is a factor at all.

    • says

      So true–it’s all very much in the grey area. I’ve not followed any other blogger types so it’s curious to imagine this subject in other fields. What type of books do you read? I’ll be heading over to your site in a bit 🙂 thanks for weighing in on this subject.

  19. says

    Interesting post – I can sort of see what you’re saying, that in any community, like, I don’t know– competitive ice skaters or kids beauty pageants — people know each other and sometimes someone else gets something you were hoping for. Though the blogging community would make a pretty poor reality show — they’d film us reading, writing posts, and stalking the mailbox.

    At some point in my blogging, probably at least a year ago, I realized that I didn’t want to be the blogger who got all the books. It would be too much for me. I couldn’t read that many books and I didn’t want to have to. So I made my peace with that.

    Jen @ YA Romantics

    • says

      This has me laughing hard! The idea of a book blogger reality show, Haha. Stalking mail boxes, sitting at laptops, reading. Too funny. I’m with you–there are So many books out there. So many have been released and I’m crazy eager to read them. I think it’s easy to be swept away with the hype and buzz and feel you need more, more. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and the lovely visual of a blogger reality show.

  20. says

    First off, great post. I am a blogger, fairly new one, been around for 2 years, but didn’t post much last year. I think in a way it looks like a competition, but isn’t really one. I see a lot of the bloggers I’m meeting through OTSPSecretSister have such a tight bond and I don’t have that with anyone but maybe 1 blogger I knew before I even started blogging. I feel like a newbie, I don’t get a lot of books from publishers, don’t get a lot of blog viewers or comments. I try and keep my head up and remind myself that its a hobby and not my job. There are days that I look at the comments on other sites and wonder what they did to get so many viewers/replies and such. I try very hard to remind myself I blog because I want to share my love for the books I’ve read, or had recommended to me. It shouldn’t matter if I get paperback copies from a publisher, or get approved on NetGally and Edelweiss, for me it’s about making friends and spreading the love I have of books, and I try and remember that everyday. May not be good at it, like today for example, started something new on the blog and let myself get down because no one has signed up, but it’s early and I know everyone is busy and has their own blog to tend to. Sorry got a bit off topic. Again great post topic. Happy Friday.

    • says

      I’ve been at it two years and I’ve had some downs. Last year it was so difficult for me to find the joy but I kept with it (though I had periods where I didn’t post often). I’ve felt out of it socially too but I tend to feel like that no matter where or who I’m with. I think it’s my shyness/introversion thing? Sometimes it’s hard to remember all the wonderful things but hopefully you’ll feel more and more positive towards the experience. You are so right! It is about the books and friendships 🙂 thank you so much for sharing your experience.

  21. says

    I love your comment happy dance gif! I do the same thing. 🙂

    I think there are certain areas of the book blogging community that can be viewed competitively (like book tours, review copies, etc.), but it’s all in the mindset. I love the analogy of your art class because there’s so much inspiration to be had here. Many a discussion post has been inspired by posts on other blogs.

    Do I occasionally get jealous of the blogs with five million comments? Yes. But I love the bloggers/readers I talk to regularly and, to be honest, I’d probably stress out if I were one of those mega-blogs. ^^; I’m also applying for law school, which will bring about some major time management changes if I get in, and that puts everything in a different perspective.

    Great conversation!

    • says

      Yep, I think it’s easy to get wrapped up in things but if you take a step back you realize that arc, blog tour or whatnot isn’t that important. You are so right about it being the mindset you’re in. I felt like the Doctor expressed my happiness at each comment beautifully 🙂 haha good luck with law school!! That is crazy exciting–please keep us updated on how it all goes

  22. says

    I just started book review blogging and I don’t feel competitive with other bloggers. I like reading other peoples opinions and reviews. I like that I can get recommendations for what to read next, but my opinion on a book could end up being very different from someone elses <3 Bee

    • says

      Yay to starting a blog! How long have you been up and running? It’s such a wonderful experience and I’m so glad it’s started off positively for you!

  23. says

    I guess we are all in competition! I feel like I’ve subconsciously not made many friends through blogging because of that, which is sad. I think we all want to be better than everyone else, instead of being happy for other people!
    Nice post 🙂

    • says

      Oh! You must befriend the community. When I started this blog I didn’t know there was a community but now I don’t know how I’d live w/out them. Thank you so much for commenting!

  24. says

    I don’t really feel like I’m competing against any other bloggers, but I am kind of competing against myself. Let me explain that: I want to try to make my blog a little better every year, so I try to come up with original content, and when I do, I’m happy about that. But there is still lots of other original content for other bloggers to come up with, so it doesn’t feel like a competition to me at all.
    And while I do participate in some blogtours, I only sign up if I’m interested in the book being promoted, if I’m picked to be a part of the tour, great, if not, maybe next time.
    I might have been really lucky since I started blogging, because I’ve gotten to know some great people, and I’ll finally be able to meet some of them in May. That sense of community, and the fact that I finally have someone to discuss books with is just fantastic to me. Most of my RL friends aren’t really readers, so being able to discuss books is a huge plus for me.
    I don’t really care very much about page-views and stuff, so maybe I’m just not competitive? If someone gets an ARC that looks interesting, I may want it, too, but I don’t mind waiting until the book is released, either.
    This is a great post Kristen, it’s always interesting to see what other bloggers think about the whole community, and what we’re up to in our little corners of the internet 🙂

  25. says

    I know nothing about other blogging communities, but I can see your point. Honestly, I would love to receive physical ARCs, but I don’t really care much if I don’t get them. Um, also I think publishers choose blogs randomly, I mean stats do count, but it seems like it’s based on a lot of factors and not just one. ANYWAYS, yeah. I don’t know hahaha. You bring up an interesting point! Which I’m sad to say is probably true 😛

  26. says

    Hugs. <3 This post is all kinds of awesome Kristen 😀 Thank you so so much for writing and sharing. <3 And ack. I get SO JEALOUS of all the bloggers sometimes. And it makes me sad too, lol. But at the same time, I do adore them all and I do wish them all the best. <3 I get jealous of you too, hih, as I feel like you are so much better than me and that you are much more popular than me, but I still adore you to pieces. <3 And I love your blog so much and I think you are amazing 🙂 Anyway. I'm not sure my comment made much sense, lol. But I love this post. <3

  27. says

    I try very hard not to compare myself to others in the book blogging community, but I’m not entirely sure if I always succeed. One thing that has helped, though, is quitting it on the reviews and blog tours. That means I don’t do the ARC thing and I don’t stress out over publishers, which – from what I’ve seen – tends to be a pretty major source of stress/jealousy in the community. I’m just so much happier when I focus on doing my own thing instead of forcing myself to compete with people I love and people I would love to see get the coveted book/publisher contact/blog tour spot/fill-in-the-blank-here.

    What I’m still struggling with, though, is not comparing myself to others in the comment and follower fields. Seeing all those huge numbers on others’ blogs makes me feel so down-in-the-dumps sometimes, and then I feel terrible because these bloggers are absolutely wonderful people and deserve the numbers! So that’s something I’m working on, as well – blogging for myself instead of the stats.

    Such a great reminder, love. Thank you so much for sharing. x

  28. says

    For me personally, I do not feel that my audience is my competition because I’m not vying for spots on blog tours or the ARCs or…well, okay…I do enter giveaways from time to time, but it’s not like those are cut throat– If I win, neat! If I don’t win, I’ll buy the book later. I tend to run my blog the way I want and without obligation (because I don’t request/accept ARCs or review requests).

    But I do see that this hobby is probably competitive to many book bloggers out there, and they may not even realize it. I’ve seen so many posts on how to build a successful blog, what requirements need to be met before its acceptable to reach out the publishers for ARCS, how to increase traffic, how to make your blog shinier and greater than that other blog that is also reading the same article with the same goals in mind. And it’s totally OKAY that this exists. The bloggers who have the ARCS, the shinier and greater blogs than my own, they totally earned it, and I applaud them for it. I don’t have that same drive or patience.

    The things that make me green with envy are not the blogs with all the ARCs or all the traffic or all the connections; it’s the bloggers who write the most articulate and eloquent posts. Goooooosh! I wish I could convey myself half as well as them.


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